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Tag Archives: purity

What’s Wrong with Guarding your Heart?

30 September 2013, 06:00

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I was raised in an ultra-Conservative Christian homeschool environment, during what I consider the heyday of the “guard your heart”/purity/courtship movement (90s and early 2000s). Needless to say, that teaching affected and continues to affect me deeply. What started out as a (presumably) well-intentioned effort by parents to prevent their children from experiencing pain, has […]

Finding the Key

18 January 2012, 06:00

Ileata

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When my husband and I were courting, we carefully set our “line” of physical touch. There would be no kissing until our wedding day; handholding was ok after we were engaged. Yes, we were following the “courtship model,” albeit loosely. We had been friends and had a lot contact before we were officially courting. We […]

The Thing About Purity

12 January 2012, 08:30

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The funny thing about purity is how the pursuit of it drove so many people into utter promiscuity. Odd statement, I know. But let me explain. It wasn’t the concept of being or remaining pure that led me to that room where I reached the pinnacle of my self-destruction one night. It was a process […]

My Life in ATI, part three

13 December 2011, 06:00

DavidA

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Courtship? After ALERT, our family moved to North Carolina. I had a crush on a girl back in Texas and told my Dad about it. My Dad thought that our personalities were not compatible, but I was insistent, so he told her father about it. The girl’s father said that they would be attending a […]

A Different Kind of Sexual Abuse

8 September 2011, 06:30

KylarD

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It was my 12th birthday. I was excited because I knew my dad would be taking me out to visit for a little bit before we celebrated with my family. I was the oldest of four boys at the time, before our younger sister and baby brother where born. I was excited because personal interactions […]

Emotional Purity and Courtship -A Conclusion

3 August 2011, 06:00

darcys

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My heart is pretty full right now. When I posted my article on this subject, I had no idea it would go where it did. And the stories just keep pouring in! For some of you, it was just nice to know that you aren’t alone in your struggles. For others, it confirmed what you’ve […]

Dividing Sister and Brother

27 July 2011, 12:45

WendyA

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The cardinal rule for those who live and work at Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) training centers is that unmarried persons of opposite genders do not mix. They especially do not “single each other out” or show any form of affection to one another. In some ways, this is perfectly understandable: you can hardly […]

How the Teachings of Emotional Purity and Courtship Damage Healthy Relationships

22 July 2011, 05:21

darcys

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There are many times that I don’t realize just how much strange teaching I’ve had to undo in my life. I usually don’t realize it until times when I try to explain them to someone else. This happened to me the other night. A dear friend and I were talking about our kids and how […]