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IBYC Staff Instructions: How to Answer Questions about Dating

7 February 2014, 06:00



This document was distributed to the staff of Institute in Basic Youth Conflicts (IBYC, the original name of the Institute in Basic Life Principles) to provide them with approved answers to questions they might receive about their dating habits. IBYC staffers were discouraged from dating during their employ for the Institute, and several staff women […]

My Heart’s Guardian: Missing in Action

10 October 2013, 06:00



My family joined the Advanced Training Institute (ATI) when I was about 9 years old.  I was taught the traditional courtship by ATI and Bill Gothard. Keep my mind pure. If I fall in love with someone who is not my spouse I’ll have less love to give him. My future spouse will ask my […]

I Kissed Courtship Goodbye!

13 February 2012, 06:00



When I was in my early 20’s I spent about 13 months working at an ACE school in Mexico. It so happened that one of my brother’s friends, a guy I had met previously at the IBLP (Institute in Basic Life Principles) Dallas Training Center, lived there as well. His family would frequently have me […]

Courtship Promised to Protect Me, Pt 2

18 August 2011, 06:30



After my courtship with Josh failed, my parents did back off on having power over directing my love life. The fact that I lived several hours away from them helped to keep them from having much influence. The truth of the matter was that I had fought the idea of courtship for years. I just […]