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Tag Archives: courtship

I Remember

28 September 2011, 06:30

darcys

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I remember wondering if it would hurt to pull the trigger… and wondering if even that would silence the voices in my head that told me that God hated me and I was an awful daughter. And if anyone would even miss me. I remember trying so hard to look like all the other ATI […]

Broken Glass

19 September 2011, 07:00

Wendy B

13

As I am going through this process of recognizing and healing from the effects of growing up with IBLP/ATI,  I find that daily life can often draw parallels to what I am feeling internally. I was washing a window in my kitchen today and realized that one of them is broken. It is pointless to […]

A Different Kind of Sexual Abuse

8 September 2011, 06:30

KylarD

50

It was my 12th birthday. I was excited because I knew my dad would be taking me out to visit for a little bit before we celebrated with my family. I was the oldest of four boys at the time, before our younger sister and baby brother where born. I was excited because personal interactions […]

Courtship Promised to Protect Me, Pt 2

18 August 2011, 06:30

JoyS

18

After my courtship with Josh failed, my parents did back off on having power over directing my love life. The fact that I lived several hours away from them helped to keep them from having much influence. The truth of the matter was that I had fought the idea of courtship for years. I just […]

Courtship Promised To Protect Me, Pt 1

11 August 2011, 06:00

JoyS

40

  Courtship. It’s a buzzword for people, not just in ATI, but in several conservative Christian groups. Bill Gothard defines courtship: “Courtship is experiencing the blessing of God by loving the Lord Jesus Christ and honoring both sets of parents. The purpose of courtship is to determine a couple’s readiness for marriage and to discern the […]

Discovering the Heart of the Father

8 August 2011, 11:00

KylarD

6

  I don’t remember too many of the details of when I got saved at three years old. My guess is that my mom had been explaining to me about God and Jesus dying that He wanted to live in my heart. I do remember mom and dad being there, that I had received a […]

Emotional Purity and Courtship -A Conclusion

3 August 2011, 06:00

darcys

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My heart is pretty full right now. When I posted my article on this subject, I had no idea it would go where it did. And the stories just keep pouring in! For some of you, it was just nice to know that you aren’t alone in your struggles. For others, it confirmed what you’ve […]

Finding Relationships, Not Rules

28 July 2011, 15:00

Moderator

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  I grew up in a family where both parents loved the Lord. They faithfully taught me God’s Word, providing me with every resource to grow spiritually.  At a young age I asked Jesus to come into my heart and take away my sin. I had a heart to serve God, but my desire to […]

How the Teachings of Emotional Purity and Courtship Damage Healthy Relationships

22 July 2011, 05:21

darcys

431

There are many times that I don’t realize just how much strange teaching I’ve had to undo in my life. I usually don’t realize it until times when I try to explain them to someone else. This happened to me the other night. A dear friend and I were talking about our kids and how […]

Escaping the Religious Noose, Part 4: Wrapping Up

21 July 2011, 08:00

Moderator

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[Editor’s note: This is Part 4 of a four-part series. Click here for Part 1, Part 2, or Part 3] —CHOICES— In Wisdom Booklets and in other manuscripts, Bill teaches that every choice–no matter how trite–is “good” or “evil.” He teaches that “gray areas” indicate a presence of evil because gray is a mixture of […]